Wednesday, November 16, 2016

The Truth is Sometimes Hard to Listen to

Mental illness sucks. Living with mental illness or living with someone living with mental illness sucks. I personally think it's even harder when you love that person. Mental illness is not all happy pills and unicorns and rainbows. Sometimes it takes a BUNCH of different medications at different doses for months or even years to get to a good place. And when I say I good place, I mean in your brain. You can't always be in a good place physically and mentally and spiritually at the same time. It is a very difficult and delicate balance.

I am going to be 100% honest about my depression battle over the past year. Some of it was easy to deal with, or so I thought, and others was entirely too much. Some you know that Mike lost his security job November of last year. It was rough on us, but I wasn't really worried. TONS of jobs were applied to by both of us and most of the time nothing was heard from.

We moved in with one of Mike's sisters, praying that it be temporary, but it turned into longer term than any of us really wanted. We both had a job with the same company for a while, but it wasn't going to be enough $ to get us into our own place. We were really stressed, and I wasn't handling it well. At all. I let my feelings bottle up, until I exploded mentally. I had some HORRIBLE thoughts that I knew were wrong and finally asked for extra help. It was decided that since I wasn't in immediate danger to myself, that a crisis residential unit would be better for me than in-patient at the hospital. It was REALLY hard to ask for help.

CPS got involved, and it honestly broke my heart. It took me a short time in the crisis residential unit  to see that I wasn't thriving in our situation. I was spending my days coping with all of the stress. I wasn't voicing my concerns and feelings. I was hiding A LOT of emotional/mental stress from my husband. Overall, it was a wonderful place to be, even with some very frustrating residents. I learned a lot and am working on putting the great information to use. Probably the best thing that came out of my "time on the inside", was a pinch pot nest that I made during a Grief/Loss group. The first thing she asked us to make was something to signify our loss. Mine was an empty nest. I couldn't see my kids as much as I would have liked. Then she asked us to make something to signify the good in our life. So I traced a heart with my finger on the inside of the nest. And one of the other girls, I say girl because she was in her early 20s, made me 3 eggs. One to signify each of the kids. Genevieve and I traded pinch pots temporarily, and when I got mine back, one of them had drawn a heart on each of the eggs. I smile every time I look at it, because I know I will see them again soon.

It was hard though, because I missed my family. I had never been away from any of my kids for more than a day or so. It's even harder now, because I haven't had a hug from my husband or kids in more than a month. IT HURTS!

I assumed to much of people while I was in care. I thought I had a place to stay when I was discharged. I didn't. I asked a bunch of people for suggestions, or just to crash on their couch for a few days. No one could or would offer the help I really needed. I don't know if they were afraid of me or how I might behave. I went outside my comfort zone and asked for help, but I couldn't find what I really needed. I was offered 2 different options, but neither would have worked out. It was suggested that I stay in one of the local shelters. So I tried, and got into the Salvation Army shelter in Denton. It was decent and the food was more than edible. I just wasn't use to sleeping in a place like that, so I honestly have no clue how much sleep I got. Not much. I know after having kids that as long as I get 5 hours sleep in a 24 hour period, I can have a socially acceptable attitude. I was pretty close to borderline ready to go off again. It sucked. The ladies in the room were nice, but they all snored in various degrees.

A relative offered to let me sleep on their couch, but after spending a couple different days there, I could see that it was not going to be a healthy place, mentally, for me. I was grateful for the time and food, but my mental state is more important.

I also slept in Mike's truck for several nights. It wasn't as bad as the shelter, but I needed more space to stretch out. I wasn't 100% where I needed to be mentally, so I finally listened to my husband and gut and went to stay with my mom. I've been here since October 10th. It hurt to miss Mike's birthday, but it hurts even more that I won't be there for Genevieve's 7th birthday in December. I could probably go back before then, but I want to move back with more than my head on straight and a tiny amount of $ in my pocket.

I will be back before Christmas, and that is all I really want this year. Screw presents. I just want to be in the same house as my husband and kids again. I want hugs and kisses every day. I want the chemical reaction in my brain when I receive those much longed for touches.

It's going to take a LONG time to get back to "normal". If there even is such a thing. I have to prove I am stable and not a danger to myself or others. I have to earn trust back and try to get back to how life was, but better.

Mental Health and Homeless reform needs to happen. There are entirely too many chronically homeless people in the US. To my best knowledge, there is no real long term options to most needing help. Most shelters are only short term. The shelter I stayed in only allowed people to  stay 5 days a month. That's it. If you had a job, you might be able to get an exception, but is it worth the frustration if you have to be out of the shelter by 7am and back by 5:30 if you wanted dinner? What if you worked afternoons til 10pm? You don't get in. They lock the door around 9:30.

Prayers have been greatly appreciated and I would love to know that someone is continuously praying for us.

Monday, November 14, 2016

Praying for children with disabilities

Our creator in heaven, we take this special opportunity to pray for our children born with disabilities. Father, we cannot question your creation for you are the only Creator in the universe. No living or non-living thing has power over your creation and we are privileged to be part of your amazing work. We pray for those kids who are having a difficult time living a normal life due to physical or mental challenges. We pronounce your healing over their lives for you are a miracle-working God. We pray for society to love and appreciate them the way they are for you are the only one who knows why they were born that way. Give us the will to interact with them as one of our own, share your love, and enjoy the diversity of your creation. Amen.

Thursday, November 10, 2016

Prayers against bad thoughts

Dear loving God, 
Sometimes I have, 
Terrible thoughts,
That run through my head. 
Do you see me, dear Lord?
Do you see my struggle?
You are mighty,
You are strong,
And you love me.
Set me free Lord!
Remove the bad thoughts,
That torment me.
Cast the enemy out,
Of my mind and my life.
Let no attack, deceit,
or contamination,
Affect me any more.
For I have been,
Washed clean,
By the blood of the Lamb.
Your mighty spirit, 
Protects me always.
All victory is yours alone.
Dear loving Lord,
Clear my mind,
Bring rest to my heart,
With the sweet caress,
Of your loving grace.
In Jesus' holy name.

Wednesday, November 9, 2016

Praying for Peace of Mind

Dear Heavenly Father, I humble myself unto your presence, praying for peace of mind. Calm my mind, O Lord, and give me the heart to understand whatever I am going through right now. Help me understand, O Lord, that everything happens for a reason, and that you are in control. Give me peace, even when I am surrounded by war. Set my heart at ease, even as I am burdened by revenge. Give me peaceful days and nights, during these difficult times. I pray this short prayer trusting that your will shall be done, amen.

Unless you are a hermit, living under a rock with no contact with the outside world, you know or will shortly know that Donald Trump is the new president-elect of the United States of America. I admit that I am a little upset. I voted with my conscience, and can live with my decision. All we can really do is move on with our lives and pray for him and those he has to advise him. Pray that he will make decisions that are the best for the nation. We don't have to like him. He will be our president.

Friday, November 4, 2016

from Invitation To Love

Come when the nights are bright with stars
Or when the moon is mellow;
Come when the sun his golden bars
Drops on the hay-field yellow.
Come in the twilight soft and gray,
Come in the night or come in the day,
Come, O love, whene'er you may,
And you are welcome, welcome...

...Come when my heart is full of grief
Or when my heart is merry;
Come with the falling leaf
Or with the redd'ning cherry.
Come when the year's first blossom blows,
Come when the summer gleams and glows,
Come with the winter's drifting snows,
And you are welcome, welcome.

Paul Laurence Dunbar

Monday, October 31, 2016

Declaration of freedom from depression

With you, O Lord, I am free. I am free from depression. I am free from the worries and stress about tomorrow. The fact that you are the only one who knows what tomorrow has in store for me, makes me more relaxed and loyal to you. I surrender all my concerns and stress unto you. Ease my mind O Lord and take over my thoughts. Take away all the negative thoughts crowding my mind, O Lord, and replace them with positivity and hope. Give me power to overcome the devil's negativity in my heart and mind, and make me victorious over my depression. In Jesus name I submit this humble prayer. Amen.

Sunday, October 23, 2016


I came to a realization a few days ago. I read through almost all of the "On This Day" posts on Facebook just about every day. I read one several days ago from before Genevieve turned one. It was a post complaining about something Mike did, can't remember what, and about going to going to spend some time at my mom's house in Nashville.

Remembering how I felt that day....I was dealing with depression even that far back. I was able to deal with it and not need the treatment as badly as I do now. I wish I had known then what I know now. I would have swallowed my pride and asked for help. I would have found better coping skills that could have prevented my recent breakdown.

It hurts. It honestly hurts my heart that my family and I suffered as long as we did. I'm sure it contributed to a lot of our stresses. I wouldn't change my choices other than that. I am who I am because of what I have been through. I am who I am because of the choices I've made. I am a much different person than what I could have been. I am me. It's as simple as that.

Thursday, October 20, 2016

My Worrywart Prayer

Dear Jesus,
I give you my whole self.
I humble myself before You,  
believing You are bigger than me,
that You are more than capable  
to handle my burdens.  
I don't know what outcome   
of me giving up control  
of my whole self will be,  
but even so, I open my fist
and let You grab it  
(or the person) from me.
I want Your will.  
I want Your presence.
I need Your strength.
Please take this burden today
and use it in my life for Your glory.
Help me to entrust my whole self to You
even when things seem dark.  
I trust You. At least I try.
But help me to trust You today.
Right now, I give it up.  
I choose not to worry anymore about this. Amen.

The Worrywart Prayer

Dear Jesus,
I give you _____________.
I humble myself before You,
believing You are bigger than me,
that You are more than capable
to handle my burdens.
I don't know what outcome 
of me giving up control
of ________ will be,
but even so, I open my fist
and let You grab it
(or the person) from me.
I want Your will.
I want Your presence.
I need Your strength.
Please take this burden today
and use it in my life for Your glory.
Help me to entrust ________ to You
even when things seem dark.
I trust You. At least I try.
But help me to trust You today.
Right now, I give it up.
I choose not to worry
anymore about this. Amen.

Tuesday, October 18, 2016

Prayer for my daughter

Oh heavenly Father,
I life up my daughter to you.
I love her so much,
Please take care of her Lord.
Cover her with your blessings,
And protection. 
Let me let go,
Of my desire to conform her,
To my will.
Show me how to protect her,
And guide her into wisdom.
Let her know she is loved, 
As she is.
Let me love her also,
As she is.
Let her know she is indeed, 
A princess,
In a kingdom far greater,
Than any fairy tale.
A kingdom with a,
Great King,
Who reigns with justice,
And mercy.
Make her strong in your Word.
Let her be tender and gentle,
And let your love flow, 
Through her life and her heart.
In Jesus' holy Name,

Conflict Resolution

Lord Almighty, anger, hatred, and
bitterness is not of You. You are the
God of Grace
God of Peace
God of Mercy
but most importantly,
You are the
God of Love.

Teach me to forgive and resolve
any conflicts that may arise.
Help those around me to 
resolve their situations and 
may we all execute that 
never-failing eternal love 
to one another. 

Change Me O Lord

Dear God,
Work on my attitude. Teach me to be more
loving, compassionate, patient, obedient, and
humble. Strip away the anger, the bitterness, 
the stubbornness, laziness, pride, and 
complacency. Help me to become more like 
You and to practice what I preach.
In Jesus' name, Amen!

The Set Me Free Prayer

Jesus, set me free from others' 
expectations of me, my
perfectionism that stresses me out,
and the fear that sees to be my 
constant companion. Instead, would
You be that constant companion?
Replace my worry with winsome
faith. Replace my fright with
settled joy. Replace my striving 
with true relaxing peace. Amen

Monday, October 17, 2016

Prayer for a Change of Heart

Dear loving God,
Thank you for,
Another day of life.
Today I seek,
A change of heart.
I suffer from hardness.
Please change me Lord,
Only you can do this.
Give me a humble heart,
A merciful heart.
Let me learn to trust you more,
And me less.
Let me understand,
That you alone are worthy,
And only by Christ's blood,
Am I justified.
All my other efforts,
Are but filthy rags,
When compared to,
The great love,
You pour out upon me,
Change my heart God!
Cleanse me!
Soften my hardness,
Let me be tender,
And loving,
As you are to me.
In the sweet name,
Of Jesus Christ,

Deep Within

May God bless the woman
deep within me, the 
woman I'm trying to be.
May he mend where my 
heart is broken, & fill
every empty space. May
God erase the fears of my
past, to create in me a
brighter future. May He
make me slow to anger & 
quick to forgive.
- Amen


Teach me
Your ways, Lord.
Help me control
my tongue and
speak words that
encourage and 
build other up.