Saturday, September 25, 2010


A cousin posted this as a note on Facebook, and I thought it was too good not to share. I'm not real close to my cousins because we live so far apart, but it is nice to connect with some of them here on Facebook

By Rebekah Reeves Grindstaff

I'm sitting on the couch after putting my two children to bed. I'm watching t.v. yet my mind is consumed with so much.... I needed to write it down and decided to share it because I wanted others to know there is a God, He is in control, and He's thought of Everything!

You thought of Everything
From the changes of the season to the perfect color green
The phrase "it is good" can't even contain the magnificence of a simple piece of wood

You thought of Everything
You gave us tears to cry and eyes to dry
Ears to hear and voices to clear
So simple, so unique, so amazing

You thought of Everything
The smell after the rain somewhat pleasing, but also full of pain
Why don't we just stop and listen to it rain

You thought of Everything
From the twinkle of the star to the laughter heard from afar
Your thought, care, perfection, so amazing

You truly thought of Everything!

Thank you... for making my life so full of Your Everythings
For making my laughter loud with a snort
my tears sometimes silent
my heart bursting with thirst and love not for sport

You thought of Everythings made just for me
now please help me to see each and Everything
Forgive me for sometimes not being Everything you made me to be
and teach me how to think of the Everythings that my babies will need

You truly thought of Everything!

Thursday, September 23, 2010

The Poem

I knelt to pray but not for long,
I had too much to do.
I had to hurry and get to work
For bills would soon be due.
So I knelt and said a hurried prayer,
And jumped up off my knees.
My Christian duty was now done
My soul could rest at ease.....
All day long I had no time
To spread a word of cheer
No time to speak of Christ to friends,
They'd laugh a at me I'd fear.
No time, no time, too much to do,
That was my constant cry,
No time to give to souls in need
But at last the time, the time to die
I went before the Lord,
I came, I stood with downcast eyes.
For in his hands God! Held a book;
It was the book of life.
God looked into his book and said
"Your name I cannot find
I once was going to write it down...
But never found the time"

Friday, September 3, 2010

Moms vs. Dads on Housekeeping: Why It Takes Moms Longer

Every mom I know wants to beat their husband's head in with their freshly washed frying pan if he dare utter the words, "What did you do all day?"

When you've got babies, especially mobile ones, chores take on all new challenges. I know I didn't fully appreciate the sleepy, predictable, totally simple newborn stage the first time around, but after getting a taste of what was to come with my first child, I valued every minute of the newborn sleepiness since any time a baby was not in my arms was invaluable cleaning time -- even if I was cleaning myself after an embarrassingly long period of time without having showered.

Now that she's bigger though, and after starting to go through toddlerhood already with Dianna, I'm reminded of why my chores -- which I despise in the first place -- take on a whole level of skill.

Not to mention why I want to smother my husband with a pillow when he says, "I don't know why you couldn't do it; it only took me about an hour."

Yes, an hour ALONE. By yourself. With no "help." Help of the baby-kind is ... special. Let's take a look at the way Mom and Dad do laundry:

Laundry Dad's Way:

* Wait until wife has all the children at the store with her
* Gather clothes from hampers into arms
* Carry to washer
* Put into washer
* Put soap into washer
* Turn washer on
* Put in proper soaps
* Go watch TV for an hour
* Come back and move things to dryer

Laundry Mom's Way:

* Carry baby with you to gather dirty clothes
* Make six trips to the washer because one arm is full
* Make a seventh to pick up the things baby pulled out of your arms and dropped
* Drop seventh armful and almost drop baby when you step on a toy in the hall
* Put clothes in washer
* Take everything out to figure out what baby just dropped in that made a "clink" sound
* Put clothes back in washer
* Try to measure detergent, have baby grab your arm and make you spill way more than you wanted
* Stare at overflow of detergent on clothes, debating whether or not that's enough soap to cause some epic overflow of suds
* Decide you're too tired to care and turn on the water
* Go change a dirty diaper
* Nurse the baby
* Play with puppets that your baby rips off your hands, then insists you put back on 20 times
* Go to start dishes and remember that you can't run hot water in the dishwasher while the washing machine is going
* Take baby for a nap and fall asleep yourself
* Go to move things from the washer to dryer
* Remove baby from dryer
* Pick up wet clothes off the floor that baby pulled out of the dryer
* Throw in a dryer sheet
* Take dryer sheet away from baby
* Close the lid and pick up crying baby
* Realize the next morning when you wake up that you forgot to run the dryer and now the clothes smell stinky, so you have to wash them all over again

So please, ask me again why it took me so much longer. I dare you.

Wednesday, September 1, 2010

You Might Be a Redneck...A Different Take

We have enjoyed the redneck jokes for years. It's time to take a reflective look at the core beliefs of a culture that values home, family, country and God. If I had to stand before a dozen terrorists who threaten my life, I'd choose a half dozen or so rednecks to back me up. Tire irons, squirrel guns and grit -- that's what rednecks are made of. I hope I am one of those. If you feel the same, pass this on to your redneck friends. Ya'll know who ya'll are.

You might be a redneck if: It never occurred to you to be offended by the phrase,'One nation, under God.'

You might be a redneck if: You've never protested about seeing the 10 Commandments posted in public places.

You might be a redneck if: You still say ' Christmas' instead of 'Winter Festival.'

You might be a redneck if: You bow your head when someone prays.

You might be a redneck if: You stand and place your hand over your heart when they play the National Anthem.

You might be a redneck if: You treat our armed forces veterans with great respect, and always have.

You might be a redneck if: You've never burned an American flag, nor intend to.

You might be a redneck if: You know what you believe and you aren't afraid to say so, no matter who is listening.

You might be a redneck if: You respect your elders and raised your kids to do the same.

You might be a redneck if: You'd give your last dollar to a friend.

If you are reading this, it is because I believe that you, like me, have just enough Red Neck in you to have the same beliefs as those talked about in this email.

God Bless the USA!

Keep the fire burning, redneck friend.


101 Things To Do Instead of Yelling or spanking.

This was posted by a FB page that I follow and after reading just a few, I think I will have to implement a few.

If you have come to a point in a challenging situation with your child where you feel that the only thing left to do is to yell at or strike your child, step away from the child.

Here are 101 things you can do instead of yelling or spanking:

1. Take a parental time-out.

2. Call for help from a friend or family member (ask them to give you an immediate break if possible).

3. Pile everyone in the car and drive to the park (or anywhere – just go for a change of scenery).

4. Sing a silly song about how angry you are.

5. Do jumping jacks.

6. Draw your feelings out.

7. Make yourself your favorite snack.

8. Write down 3 instances when you felt intense love for your child.

9. Clean out your clothes closet and set aside a bag for Goodwill (now would probably not be a good time to do this with the kids’ toys).

10. Change the subject – come back to it when you and your child are calmer.

11. Whisper.

12. Practice progressive relaxation.

13. Act like animals: stomp like an elephant, growl like a lion, etc.

14. Run around the house (or around the block if your children have alternate childcare).

15. Do a load of laundry.

16. Set out clothes for the kids for the next week (or do some other task that will pay off later).

17. Release tension: shake your shoulders, roll your neck, etc.

18. Count to 100. Out loud. In a robot voice.

19. Immerse yourself in an easy craft project.

20. Dust off the hedge clippers and trim your trees or other landscaping.

21. If your child allows it, give him a huge hug and tell him you love him.

22. Scream into a pillow.

23. Bake cookies (with help from your child), bring some to a neighbor or your local fire department.

24. Dance to your favorite song.

25. Instead of yelling at your kids to do something, act out your request in a game of charades or pictionary.

26. Pluck your eyebrows.

27. Clean out the refrigerator.

28. Bang your head – to some loud music.

29. Write down the angry words you could have said, then rip the paper up and throw it away.

30. Do some yoga.

31. Rearrange the furniture.

32. Make a list of the many reasons you love your child.

33. Wash the car by hand.

34. Laugh in as many different ways as you can think of (think Mary Poppins).

35. Take everyone and go sit in a car wash. Choose the option for colored soap.

36. Chocolate.

37. Call a friend who supports gentle discipline (think about finding a “gentle discipline partner” who you can talk to anytime you feel the urge to yell or spank).

38. Fall down theatrically on the floor. Lie there long enough to collect yourself.

39. Pay bills.

40. Keep a roll of tape handy – use it on your mouth.

41. Squeeze a stress ball.

42. Recite multiplication tables.

43. Stand as silent and still as possible.

44. Paint your nails.

45. Do 25 sit-ups.

46. Finish a task you’ve been putting off.

47. Listen to an audio book.

48. Take a bubble bath.

49. Ask a silly question. Ask another.

50. Take a walk around your neighborhood or a park and clean up the trash.

51. Run up and down the stairs.

52. Paint on different mediums (paper, rocks, your windows, etc.).

53. Write a story using only 100 words.

54. Cook a meal for the freezer.

55. Look at pictures of your child when she was a baby.

56. Play Solitaire (or whatever game strikes your fancy).

57. Brew some of your favorite tea or coffee. Have a tea party.

58. Sweep, vacuum, or mop.

59. Learn something new online.

60. Play with Playdough or clay.

61. Put a movie on for the kids; have sex with your partner.

62. Take a shower.

63. Organize meal plans for the next week. Or month. Or year.

64. Set up an obstacle course for you and your kids to do (inside or out).

65. Instead of shouting something angrily, shout “I love you!!”

66. Make up a rhyme about how much you love your child. Recite it while standing on your head.

67. Play ball (basketball, throw a tennis ball against a wall, play catch with someone, etc.).

68. Take artsy pictures.

69. Make a PostSecret postcard.

70. Pull weeds.

71. Decoupage something.

72. Blow bubbles.

73. Make a list of “things I would rather do than engage in power struggles with my child.”

74. Trade roles with your child: pretend you are the little, and she is the adult.

75. Reorganize a closet or cabinet.

76. Roll around on an exercise ball.

77. Make bread or pizza dough (the kind you have to knead).

78. Form a drum circle: everyone grab a drum or a pot, and start playing.

79. Build a tower out of books (or anything handy). Knock it down.

80. Gather the kids for a nature walk around the block.

81. Have a few funny videos saved on YouTube to watch when you need a break.

82. Take silly pictures of yourself. Invite your child to help.

83. Ask your Facebook or Twitter friends to tell you a joke.

84. Scrub the shower.

85. Write a poem (it doesn’t have to be a good one).

86. Send postcards to random people.

87. Make a silly (and unrelated) announcement. (“For the rest of the day, everyone must hop on one foot when moving about the house!”)

88. Make funny faces. Tell your child that no matter what, they must not laugh.

89. Turn on a videocamera. Turn the opportunity into one of love and connection that you can be proud of later.

90. Play an instrument.

91. Take the family to a park with sidewalk chalk: write/draw inspirational messages/pictures.

92. Learn how to say a few words in another language (ASL, Spanish, etc.).

93. Floss.

94. Jump rope.

95. Do something nice for someone else. (Involve your child if he wants to help.)

96. Write your feelings down on paper.

97. Meditate or pray.

98. Hug your child’s teddy bear or doll and talk about how much you love your child (while your child is watching, if you’d like).

99. Look into a mirror and realize what your child is seeing when you are angry.

100. Remember your child is young, and innocent, and loves you, and needs to trust you.

101. Take a minute to calm down and breastfeed your child. (It’s hard to be angry at a child who is nursing, plus the act of breastfeeding releases hormones that will help calm both of you down.)

The bottom line is to not scream at or hit your child. It’s ok to step away from the situation or to defuse a fight by using laughter or love instead of instantly turning to discipline or punishment. If you are trying to “teach” your child something, she will not learn when you are approaching her with anger – whether it is in your voice or in your hand. All she will feel is fear.

Talk about it when both you and your child are calm. Chances are, you will both feel better about the outcome.

What do you do when you need a moment to compose yourself?